There’s always an excuse not to grace the doors of the space that is there to help you. Perhaps you don’t quite yet have your stuff together in the way you would like. Perhaps your appearance is a little messier than you’d like to show to others. Perhaps you have done things that are unforgivable and that, if you can just figure out how to undo them, then you’ll be ready to receive the help. Perhaps the addiction or the behavior hasn’t gotten so bad that you can’t stand living with yourself anymore. But once you get there, you’ll go through those doors.
Perfectionism is such a thief. It robs us of experiences we could be having, of growth we could be experiencing, of the help we so desperately need right now. If anyone feels perfectly anything as they reach out in the midst of a desperate moment, they are telling you a lie and they are lying to themselves. The moment of asking for help is a tender moment.
You may not be perfect, but the help and support are there for you anyway. So you may as well not wait for the perfect moment and just reach out to let folks know what you need.
Note: As the Twelfth Tradition of Twelve-Step recovery reminds us, "Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities." The editors and authors of This Day in Recovery chose not to provide individual attributions in order to respect this tradition. This meditation appears for June 23 in that book.